Flirt with him. Be playful, tease him, say slightly naughty things once in a while, and gaze into his eyes with a “come here, big boy†twinkle. Why do we think we can quit doing the things we did when we were first falling in love? The relationships that endure are those where the couple stays “in love†and have fun together. That means flirting, being playful, being sexy and sensual, and remembering why we fell in love in the first place. The benefit to you? You’ll both feel younger, friskier, and more in love and you won’t end up in divorce court. Why does it work? Flirting is a kind of play and playfulness helps cement your bond.